So, we’re taking our own advice, and just taking a moment here.
You probably thought we went AWOL. If so, then you probably also forgot a brief mention we made a while back about the fact that we’re organizing a move.
We’re in the the thick of it at the moment, and it’s going to go on for a while — not the physical move itself, obviously, as that’s just a few weeks of packing, disjointed routines, running around, etc. The stuff that’s going to go on for a bit is the paperwork side of our move. Since there’s some dual citizenship and passport renewal issues involved, we’re juggling documents with bureaucrats from two EU nations, and one non-EU nation that’s plunk in the middle. We’re dealing with some very nice folks whose cultural backgrounds involve a morbid desire to complicate the paperwork from bureaucracies that have had (in one case) more than 2000 years of complication already.
You know how you’re always told that taking a moment is a good idea when you’re engaged with something stressful? There’s a reason for that.
And moving, if we can believe the experts, is one of the most stressful life events one can voluntarily undertake. Taking a moment, indeed.
If you let it, the moving process can become a freaking nightmare.
How are we coping?
Not too badly, considering we’re a couple of “almost-senior” citizens and we’re doing a bunch of the packing ourselves. We’re also juggling the paperwork, but we were smart enough to get some help with that part of the process. The trick, as always, is to focus on what you’re dealing with in the moment, at any given moment. If you try to wrap your head around the whole process, from start to finish, bad things start to happen.
Why do you suppose that is?
It’s simple, really: anything from “before” or “after” that demands your attention “now” takes you away from whatever you’re really supposed to be doing now. You try to do everything at once, and the result is that you don’t get any of it done effectively. You begin to fret and worry about what you were supposed to have done yesterday, and what you need to get done tomorrow to be ready for the next day or the next week or the next month. If you persist with that approach, you start to build anxiety — a strange, hybrid form of fear — and that’s when you can really get into some trouble.
Serious trouble, if you’re not careful.
So we’re taking a moment.
And in that moment, we’re just breathing, enjoying a bit of renewal, and flushing any bits of built-up anxiety or angst over the process right down the drain.
You can’t help hitting some of that stuff, no matter who you are. Just remember that anxiety can be a pretty normal response to too much pressure, even if the pressure is self-imposed. In most cases, it has less to do with your inability to cope with normal stress, and more to do with the fact that life is often nuts and we sometimes impose ridiculous burdens on ourselves. You really can’t afford to sweat the small stuff, and in the grand scheme of your life, things like moving — even to another country — are all small stuff, no matter how aggravating they may occasionally be.
At the moment, we’re sitting here and writing the draft of this post. David is doing the typing, as usual; Kathryn is sitting close at hand, and we’re going back and forth over the draft. Our little dog is with us. We’ve got boxes and junk around us — organized chaos. The terrace door is open, and it’s pitch black and stormy out over the Mediterranean. We’ve got thunder and lightning, and the pyrotechnics are amazing. Soon, we’re going to put on some music and maybe crack a bottle of wine…and don’t give us a hard time about that because it’s early evening here at the moment.
Moving, shmooving. We’re taking a moment to remind ourselves that life is good.
Remember to take some moments for yourself every day, especially if your life seems a bit frantic just now.
Our best to you, always,
David & Kathryn
PS: we’ll get back to you sooner or later. We’ve got the feeling that we’ll be pretty busy over the next few weeks, so bear with us if there’s a lag between this post and our next. Baci, DKG